I have recently realized something, as per usual. Growing up and growing farther away from society as a whole and becoming an individual in society has made me realize how often I try to please others. This may sound like my previous post The Importance of Individualism, and it kind of is the same concept but the same circumstance happened again.
I try over and over to please other people, friends at school look for people that get good grades to stick tightly with, or even people that get worse grades to get some sort of fulfillment out of being better than others. I have learned that no matter how hard you try to be nice to people and include them in things and give them things, they don’t have to return the favor and I ladies and gentlemen, I am the worst culprit.
I am finally sick of giving and trying to make everyone else happy for the sake of my own happiness and therefore I am minding my own business and giving these people what they have wanted for so long. If you only want to be acquaintances thats fine, if you want to be friends then I will wait to see the effort put forth by others and not just by me.
I officially give up trying to please everyone when I wont be invited to things and be left in the background with my feelings hurt. Too many people now are undercover bullies, they will talk nice to your face and act as if they are your friend then behind your back not include you in things without knowing how much it hurts people’s feelings.
Moral of the story: I have realized who my true friends are, they encourage me, help me no matter what and are always there for me to include me in things because they WANT me to be involved in their memories.
If you have good friends, cherish them, cherish the moments you share together and the fact that your friends genuinely care about you and your happiness.
This is hard to find and when you do, don’t let it go! Friendship is one of the most important aspects in life because these are the only people outside of your family that will care for you and support you through life’s worst times.
Please comment and share any of your stories so that I know I’m not the only one that has tried so hard for something that only upset me!
Until next time,